Writing Your Own Vows

On June 7, 2017 we said our vows. Before that date, some time the month prior, we wrote them. Our decision to write our vows came after months of thinking. Writing your own vows isn’t difficult. All you need is a little inspiration, a lot of love, and a dash of romance.

Adam’s Role

Adam didn’t do a lot of the writing. In fact, he wrote just his part, the small portion that described his feelings for me. He was given minimal guidance, just that he had one, short paragraph. This is what he wrote:

“Jamie, Adam loves your immeasurable beauty.  He loves your soft, caring nature that he hopes will, one day, rub off on him – just a little.  He loves that you vamp his hair and quietly sing him to sleep when he’s had a long day.  Your beauty and intelligence never ceases to impress him.  You’re everything that he could ever hope for and, every day, you make him feel like the luckiest man in the world. “

PS: For those wondering what “vamp” means, it just means pulling on his hair.

Jamie’s Role

I did a lot of thinking prior to writing our vows. Our parents have both been married for a while (neither has been divorced) and I knew that I wanted their unwavering love to shine through, as both of our families have inspired us.

Adam also liked this idea. We both feel as though our parents have taught us to love; we owed them this recognition. It is because of them that we are us.

Taking this into consideration, I started to work, beginning with that portion. I asked our parents to answer two questions and then I took their answers and started with this:

“Love is the bonding of souls, an undeniable emotional connection. Love is being unable to imagine a day without your partner, for the endless need to feel that unwavering bond pulls you together. Love is wanting and caring for someone, despite their flaws; it’s always putting the other person first, no matter what. Love is honesty and trust and compromise; and it strengthens as you work through life’s challenges and imperfections.

But, above all, love is a force and, much like gravity, it pulls us together, and some for a lifetime.

Marriage is the vow of that love, the declaration, the bonding of those two souls. It is an unconditional, lifelong commitment of love. Marriage is living life with your best friend; and it is the choice to love one another unconditionally, to remain intertwined forever, despite the challenges in life that will try to tear you apart.

These words came from Adam’s and Jamie’s parents, two couples that prove that love is true, real, and eternal.”

Our Tips

When it comes to writing your own vows, Jamie states that it’s important to take inspiration from those around you. Pull inspiration from the words of great poets or writers. Sit and think about how your loved one makes you feel and write with this in mind.

Adam states that it’s best to take a back seat if needed. One person should take the lead while the other person reviews/provides feedback. If the leader asks a question or for suggestions, it’s a good idea to help, though. Wrting your own vows can be stressful.

Our Full Vows

Good evening, friends and family; we are gathered here today to celebrate the marriage of Adam and Jamie. On behalf of St. Lucia and its people, welcome.

Love is the bonding of souls, an undeniable emotional connection. Love is being unable to imagine a day without your partner, for the endless need to feel that unwavering bond pulls you together. Love is wanting and caring for someone, despite their flaws; it’s always putting the other person first, no matter what. Love is honesty and trust and compromise; and it strengthens as you work through life’s challenges and imperfections.

But, above all, love is a force and, much like gravity, it pulls us together, and some for a lifetime.

Marriage is the vow of that love, the declaration, the bonding of those two souls. It is an unconditional, lifelong commitment of love. Marriage is living life with your best friend; and it is the choice to love one another unconditionally, to remain intertwined forever, despite the challenges in life that will try to tear you apart.

These words came from Adam’s and Jamie’s parents, two couples that prove that love is true, real, and eternal.

In preparation for today, Adam and Jamie reflected on what it is that they love about each other.

Adam, Jamie loves you for far more than your endless blue eyes and perfect smile. She loves you because of the jokes you make, the love that you have for her precious Charlie, and because you help her clean the house; and, even though you pretend you don’t know how to do things, like baking brownies or adding bleach to the laundry, and you force her to ride rollercoasters, you show her an authentic and sincere love that has changed her in the best ways possible.

Jamie, Adam loves your immeasurable beauty.  He loves your soft, caring nature that he hopes will, one day, rub off on him—just a little.  He loves that you vamp his hair and quietly sing him to sleep when he’s had a long day.  Your beauty and intelligence never ceases to impress him.  You’re everything that he could ever hope for and, every day, you make him feel like the luckiest man in the world.

As the years pass, this love will only grow stronger. As the pages of your story are written, the love that you share will blossom into a chronicle filled with times of laughter, moments of sadness, and years of beautiful memories.

JAMIE PASSES FLOWERS TO KIANA

BRIDE AND GROOM FACE EACH OTHER AND HOLD HANDS

The vows you will now make are an everlasting pledge of the love you share. They symbolize your unbroken bond and your commitment to one another.

Adam, please repeat after me.

I, Adam, take you, Jamie, to be my wife. I promise to be your best friend, a reason for your laughter, and a support when needed. I vow to love you through the ups and the downs, every day, from now until forever.

Jamie, please repeat after me.

I, Jamie, take you, Adam, to be my husband. I promise to be your best friend, a reason for your laughter, and a support when needed. I vow to love you through the ups and the downs, every day, from now until forever.

Adam, do you choose to spend today and all of your tomorrows with Jamie? To offer her your heart and your fidelity for as long as you both shall live?

I do.

Jamie, do you choose to spend today and all of your tomorrows with Adam? To offer him your heart and your fidelity for as long as you both shall live?

I do.

Adam and Jamie, may this be the beginning of a lifetime filled with love, peace, and happiness. May you grow each day in understanding and compassion, and when apart may you return to one another in togetherness.

We will now exchange the rings.

These rings represent the vows that you, Adam and Jamie, made; they reflect your commitment to each other now and forever, and may they remind you of the journey that you are about to embark on, as husband and wife.

Adam, please repeat after me.

With this ring, I offer you a symbol of my vow, so that my words and love will be with you forever.

Jamie, please repeat after me.

With this ring, I offer you a symbol of my vow, so that my words and love will be with you forever.

ASK EVERYONE TO STAND

And now, by the power vested in me as marriage officer in the state of St. Lucia, I pronounce Adam and Jamie to be husband and wife.

You may kiss your bride.

Need Help?

For those that need help or would like some inspiration, please feel free to use our vows (that’s why they’re here – for you!) or leave a comment. We’d love to help in any way that we can.

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